Wow... Lots of little bastard teenage girls on here, huh?
FOR THE LOVE OF GOD.
GET WITH SOMEONE WHO WANTS TO HAVE CHILDREN WITH YOU.
Christ. What is this? The 3rd post of a girl who TRIED to get pregnant and HID the fact from the unsuspecting father?
YOU JUST DESTROYED ANOTHER TEENS LIFE. GET OVER YOURSELF.
Yes, sometimes when a person doesn't want a child (even IF it is there own) it DESTROYS their life. And it's WRONG to do a person.
Not to mention the child you have who will never know their father. So really two lives that aren't as good as they could be because YOU'RE A SELFISH CHILD.
ITA. Don't sneak around and be a little cunt about getting pregnant. If your SO doesn't want a child, break up with them and find someone who does! I'm not saying you've ruined someone's life, but it's rude and shady to deliberately go against your SO's wishes. You say you love them? Clearly not, if you're being a two faced little wench.
UGH! This is what gives single mothers bad names. I can't believe that someone would lie to a boyfriend about how they got pregnant especially if you KNEW that they didn't want children right now. UGH! He didn't want you to be pregnant, hence the morning after pill, and you are going to complain that he doesn't want her now? I feel sorry for your kid.
I personally cant believe everyone is bitching. it's HER choice whether or not to take the MA pill. but ya'll know my stance on abortion/MA pill and everything. (and no I don't consider it abortion bc it's not but I still myself wouldn't use it)
He had unprotected sex. He should have wrapped it up. He should have atleast pulled out in time. SOMETHING.
I don't think it's wrong of you at all to not have taken the MA pill, but it is wrong that you're bitching that he's not in her life. He obviously made it clear he didnt want the child.
and who said she TRIED to get pregnant or poked holes in the condom? just because she didnt take the MA pill and he wanted to does not mean she got pregnant on purpose.
Okay, this was worded wrong, and while I dont have to try and 'justify' anything, I will explain what happened. He and I didnt discuss having children. HE chose not to pull out, and when I told him I was going to take the morning after pill he told me it was MY choice. My sister came to me the next day and asked if there was any way I could get it for her. I took this as a sign. He i was 23 at the time, I was 19. Two weeks later HE did not pull out again. He says he is happy he has a daughter, but he said he "cant do it anymore". He stuck around until she was 5 months old. He would take her three times a week while I worked. We stopped dating when I was pregnant, but remained very close. We are still very close, but he got a new gf, and decided he couldnt see his daughter anymore. He told me being a father "seemed really hard". I did not intentionally get pregnant to keep him around or anything like that. He didnt care whether I took the morning after pill or not, it was my choice. I told him I took it because he knew I went and got it. I did not want to tell him my sister needed it. The reason he doesnt see his daughter is not because I got pregnant and he didnt want a baby, its because his new gf has a son and he would rather play house with them, then step up and tell his gf he wants to be with his daughter. Maybe I am stupid for believing him, but he says he loves his daughter, but he cant see her because of the problems it would cause with his new gf. I dont ask him for support, or anything. I fully raise my two children on my own. My daughter WILL know who her father is. He has made that clear to me. Maybe I am stupid for believing him. I dont regret having my daughter. And I never will.
Birth control is a 2 way street though. It sucks that it's of course ultimately on the woman to decide what to do if something happens, but before that there's two people who need to make sure to use birth control if they really don't want it. If the girl doesn't use anything knowingly, (guy doesn't either- he could care less) she has a baby, then yeah of course she's going to be stuck with the baby if the guy is a deadbeat. Guys are so stupid. It's like they're thinking "I like sex without condoms, and if she gets pregnant I can stay OR leave, whatever I feel like. Maybe she won't go after me for child support- score!!!" dumb BOYS!
I would never take the morning after pill, that's just me. I'm not against it, but I would never take it. I think that whoever did this secret & didn't take the morning after pill is completely justified in not taking it. It's a matter of beliefs there. After seeing the explanation I think the secret post was missing a little info. so everyone jumped.
Wow... Lots of little bastard teenage girls on here, huh?
ReplyDeleteFOR THE LOVE OF GOD.
GET WITH SOMEONE WHO WANTS TO HAVE CHILDREN WITH YOU.
Christ. What is this? The 3rd post of a girl who TRIED to get pregnant and HID the fact from the unsuspecting father?
YOU JUST DESTROYED ANOTHER TEENS LIFE. GET OVER YOURSELF.
Yes, sometimes when a person doesn't want a child (even IF it is there own) it DESTROYS their life. And it's WRONG to do a person.
Not to mention the child you have who will never know their father. So really two lives that aren't as good as they could be because YOU'RE A SELFISH CHILD.
ITA. Don't sneak around and be a little cunt about getting pregnant. If your SO doesn't want a child, break up with them and find someone who does! I'm not saying you've ruined someone's life, but it's rude and shady to deliberately go against your SO's wishes. You say you love them? Clearly not, if you're being a two faced little wench.
ReplyDeleteUGH! This is what gives single mothers bad names. I can't believe that someone would lie to a boyfriend about how they got pregnant especially if you KNEW that they didn't want children right now. UGH! He didn't want you to be pregnant, hence the morning after pill, and you are going to complain that he doesn't want her now? I feel sorry for your kid.
ReplyDeleteI personally cant believe everyone is bitching.
ReplyDeleteit's HER choice whether or not to take the MA pill. but ya'll know my stance on abortion/MA pill and everything. (and no I don't consider it abortion bc it's not but I still myself wouldn't use it)
He had unprotected sex. He should have wrapped it up. He should have atleast pulled out in time. SOMETHING.
I don't think it's wrong of you at all to not have taken the MA pill, but it is wrong that you're bitching that he's not in her life. He obviously made it clear he didnt want the child.
and who said she TRIED to get pregnant or poked holes in the condom? just because she didnt take the MA pill and he wanted to does not mean she got pregnant on purpose.
ReplyDeleteOkay, this was worded wrong, and while I dont have to try and 'justify' anything, I will explain what happened.
ReplyDeleteHe and I didnt discuss having children. HE chose not to pull out, and when I told him I was going to take the morning after pill he told me it was MY choice.
My sister came to me the next day and asked if there was any way I could get it for her.
I took this as a sign.
He i was 23 at the time, I was 19.
Two weeks later HE did not pull out again.
He says he is happy he has a daughter, but he said he "cant do it anymore".
He stuck around until she was 5 months old. He would take her three times a week while I worked.
We stopped dating when I was pregnant, but remained very close.
We are still very close, but he got a new gf, and decided he couldnt see his daughter anymore. He told me being a father "seemed really hard".
I did not intentionally get pregnant to keep him around or anything like that. He didnt care whether I took the morning after pill or not, it was my choice.
I told him I took it because he knew I went and got it. I did not want to tell him my sister needed it.
The reason he doesnt see his daughter is not because I got pregnant and he didnt want a baby, its because his new gf has a son and he would rather play house with them, then step up and tell his gf he wants to be with his daughter.
Maybe I am stupid for believing him, but he says he loves his daughter, but he cant see her because of the problems it would cause with his new gf.
I dont ask him for support, or anything. I fully raise my two children on my own. My daughter WILL know who her father is. He has made that clear to me.
Maybe I am stupid for believing him.
I dont regret having my daughter. And I never will.
Birth control is a 2 way street though. It sucks that it's of course ultimately on the woman to decide what to do if something happens, but before that there's two people who need to make sure to use birth control if they really don't want it. If the girl doesn't use anything knowingly, (guy doesn't either- he could care less) she has a baby, then yeah of course she's going to be stuck with the baby if the guy is a deadbeat. Guys are so stupid. It's like they're thinking "I like sex without condoms, and if she gets pregnant I can stay OR leave, whatever I feel like. Maybe she won't go after me for child support- score!!!" dumb BOYS!
ReplyDeleteI would never take the morning after pill, that's just me. I'm not against it, but I would never take it. I think that whoever did this secret & didn't take the morning after pill is completely justified in not taking it. It's a matter of beliefs there. After seeing the explanation I think the secret post was missing a little info. so everyone jumped.